Getting Over Your Heartbreak
Dating is a fairly common thing with most Christian teens, and it takes a lot of courage to open up your heart to someone else. Yet opening up your heart also means it can be broken. A breakup isn't the end of the world, but that doesn't mean it's not painful.
Does that mean you just close yourself off to others? No. People will come in and out of your life, and the coming and goings aren't always pleasant. Then you have to deal with friends and family trying to be consoling or funny in order to help you get over your breakup. Often you end up feeling guilty that you're in pain.
Yet, you have to let yourself feel the pain so you can let go of the heartache. One of the best ways to do that is to pray. Have a conversation with God about how your are feeling. He's the best secret-keeper, anyhow. You can tell Him anything, and He's always there to listen. Allow Him to guide you through your heartache so you can heal. While everyone around you may give you advice of how to get over your heartache, it is God that will not only offer advice but actually help you heal.
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The worst thing to feel is a heartbreak, the pain doesnt seem like it will ever go away.. My one and only love (and first love) has taken a part of my heart and crushed it. All I can do is pray, maybe this is God’s plan, but all I can see is him in my life in my future, marrying him and having kids. These past 3 years were everything to me with him. He has seen me change in my life and has been there in the most important parts of my life; Baptism, license, my nephew being born, and just problems that i had in my life. But now that he is gone and wants to end this, its just tearing me apart and do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. It just seems it will be dark for awhile…But I thank you for writing this blog, I am doing my best to reach out to God for Help and I know he will hold me in his arms! God Bless!
its true when i talk to god i feel alot better but other times I feel like crying on a best friends sholder and that helps to and its the same with god if it is to awkword to go to your mom/dad/bff/f god can b ethat shoulder!!!
I can not take this pain anymore I just wish i could press the delete key so i can just get this feeling out of my heart, head, body and life. The only girl that i have loved truely, my first love, has made life unbearable but with God’s help i pray that i get over her.
i can never forget her she talked so sweetly so charming was her face i wrote poems for her also did i draw her potrait i loved her every single momment in life jsut becoz of some misunderstanding she ditched me?? she used me on last day like she was very happy with me she played with mi emotions god do teach her a good lesson so that she could never ever forget me….
Diana, i know exactly how you feel!
My boyfriend recently broke up with me, well it’s been a month or so. It was due to the fact we both acknowledge that we kept putting God before one another, thus leading to arguments, thus leading to him not being sure as to whether i was the one for him. We are now separated and are growing in the Lord. As a result of this breakup, he is treating me as a friend and essentially with a lot less emotion and love than he used to, he has turned stern hard and rigid. And it’s tearing my hearts to shreds. He says that he wishes and hopes to be with me in the future, and wants to find whether it’s God’s will for us to be, but is packing those hopes and dreams away in a box and using that effort and energy to focus on God. Fair enough, but he acts like a single expression of hope to me is absolute sin. It really has put me in a compromising situation as i love him more than anything, am i limbo? There are days where i feel hopeless and melancholy, but other days where i feel strong with Our Lord! It is terribly hard! And like you , i can’t see past all those hopes and dreams we’ve shared.
I hope it all works out for you, God Bless You.
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Sorry huge typing error in the last comment- i meant we acknowledged we keep putting one another before God!
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Hello Kelli
I was dating a woman and we were planning to get married and out of the blue we broke up. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to go thru.
I prayed and prayed. Believe it or not I fasted for a couple of days, i was hurting big time.
What it came down to is that the whole process made me stronger and I was able to see things that i needed to improve on myself.
During heartbreak trusting GOD can be the hardest thing to do, but he does things for a reason.
I am 22 i have dated the same guy for the last 5 years and recently(about a month ago) he said he wasnt happy and broke up with me. I felt like my world was crashing down around me and most days still do. Since the first year we were together we had been talking about getting married one day. Our feelings were always strong from the beginning. He was the world to me so trying to get through life without him everyday has been close to impossible. I really do believe God is bigger then this and he has a plan for my life and it may or may not involve getting back with him. Even in knowing the truth the pain i feel everyday is often unbearable. I lost my boyfriend and my best friend…he was my other half for 5 years. I feel like i have lost my inner joy. I feel very empty inside. I am praying everyday that somehow God will get me through this and that someday it will stop hurting but it is so hard when i feel like the pain is consuming me.