Is Homosexuality Wrong?
There is no simple answer to this, because not all Christian denominations agree. There are several verses throughout the Bible that have been interpreted to mean that homosexuality is a sin. Still many verses have been interpreted to describe behavior at pagan temples. Thus, much of what you think of homosexuality is how you interpret scripture.
Leviticus 18:22 – “Do not lie with a man as one lies with a woman; that is detestable.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 6:9-10 – “Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” (NIV)
Is it a “Choice?”
Gay rights activists have spent many years trying to tell people that homosexuals are born that way. The three main studies that activists use to claim the biological nature of homosexuality have serious methodological flaws, but the media has latched onto the simplified results.
If people were born to be homosexual would God have considered it a sin? In Leviticus, many interpret the scripture to mean God called for homosexuals to be killed for their sins. A loving God would not create homosexuals only to have them killed for a behavior He created. In Genesis, Eve was created to be a companion for Adam and many interpret from those verses that marriage is a union between a man and a woman.
Genesis 2:24 – “For this reason a man will leave his father and other and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” (NIV)
Leviticus 20:13 – “If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” (NIV)Still, even if someone believes homosexuality is something a person is born with, most Christians adhere to the concept that pre-marital sex is a sin. Simply, whether it is a homosexual or heterosexual relationship, the ideal is that Christian teens should be waiting until marriage to have sex.
Romans 1:24-25 – “Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator – who is forever praised. Amen.” (NIV)
What About My Homosexual Friends?
Many homosexuals are angry or fearful of Christians, because they have been persecuted over the years, and that is a valid concern. Even if you believe that your homosexual friends have sinned, it does not mean you should suddenly give up on them. There is a common saying in the church of “Love the sinner, hate the sin.” We are all sinners in one way or another.
There are also those that believe homosexuals, even those that struggle with their sexual orientation, can be forgiven. The only unforgivable sin, according to the Bible, is to not believe in Jesus as God’s one and only son (John 3:18). Therefore, your homosexual friends can use your guidance and love rather than your judgement
However, it is important for you to understand that the answer to homosexuality is not to convert your friend to heterosexuality, but to guide your friends toward God. Many people think that dating or marriage is the answer to all the homosexual’s problems, but the opposite of homosexuality is not heterosexuality, it is holiness. It is not about creating an attraction to members of the opposite sex, but forming a relationship with God. He will take care of the rest. Plus, there are churches out there that will welcome your friend with open arms. It's about showing God's love.
If your friend does not necessarily turn to God right away, be patient and be an example of Christ. Remember that you are there to plant the seeds. It is God who will make those seeds grow.
John 3:18 – “Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe stands condemned already because he has not believed in the name of God’s one and only son.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 3:6 – “I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God made it grow.” (NIV)
1 Corinthians 10:13 – “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And god is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” (NIV)