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How to Know When It's Time to Break Up

Understanding When a Relationship is Over


All relationships go through bad periods where things get tough, but how do you differentiate between going through a bad time and it being time to break up. There are ways to know when it's more than just a down moment in your dating relationship. Here are some ways to know that it's time to break up:

You're Not Getting Along

You'd be hard pressed to find a relationship where the couple never, ever argued. People have different opinions. There are little things that annoy us about one another. It happens. However, when the arguments seem to go non-stop. When it seems like the two of you are arguing more than agreeing, that's a sign something is seriously wrong in your relationship. Sometimes those things can be fixed, but more often than not it's a sign you might need to break up.

You Don't Look Forward to Seeing Them

Another sign that it may be time to break up is when you stop looking forward to seeing the other person. In the beginning of a relationship it feels like you just can't get enough of your boyfriend or girlfriend. That passion sometimes fades a bit, but when it becomes a burden, you may need to reconsider if this is a long-term relationship.

You're Unhappy with Them

How happy are you when the two of you are together? If the other person isn't making you happy, or you're only depressed when you're with them, there's a problem. The relationship might not be the one for you. It doesn't necessarily mean they're causing you to be depressed, but it may be that this just isn't the right relationship for you.

Your Eye is Wandering

If you're looking beyond your significant other, and other people are starting to catch your eye more and more often, then it may be time to break up. You don't want to be the cheater in this situation. In the commandments we're to guard our hearts from adultery. It may not be adultery in the marriage sense, but it is still a betrayal to cheat on someone. If you find yourself wanting to date others, then it's definitely time to end the relationship.

The Bad Times Are More Frequent

When things are bad more often than they're good, it means it's time to move on. Couples should make each other happy. Even in hard times, they provide support and a rock to lean on. If all that goes away, then there isn't much foundation in a relationship. If things are always bad, with only a smattering of good, it may be time to break up.

You Don't Trust the Person

Trust is an essential part of any relationship, whether it's a dating relationship or friendship. If you can't trust the person, this may not be a healthy relationship for you at all. Do you find yourself going through their stuff, looking for ways he or she is cheating, or even following them around? If you're asking friends to spy, or questioning their every move, then it's not a strong relationship. You deserve to be with someone you trust, and if you can't trust your current partner, it may be a sign the relationship is over.

You Don't Respect the Person

Just like a lack of trust, a lack of respect makes the foundation of the relationship shaky. Why be with someone you don't respect? Is it just to be with someone? If you don't respect them, it can turn to nit-picking, suspicion, and overall sadness about the relationship. It's important that you respect the person you're with, and that the person you're with respects you.

You Realize You're Too Different

There are some people out there that believe opposites attract. To a point, they do at times, but not polar opposites. If people have differences that seem to go together, it's because God found a way to balance the two people out. However, when you find you are too different from one another, relationships become hard. It's why missionary dating is not really recommended. It's hard to date people who don't share your faith. It can be distracting our lead you down the wrong path. If you find you're way too different, and those differences are getting in the way of a healthy relationship, then you may need to break up.

The Other Person is Abusive

Abuse is always a good reason to end a relationship. It's a given. If the other person is being abusive in any way - physical, sexual, emotional - it's time to break up. Period. Sure, you may have a desire to "fix" them, or you may think it's going to get better. Most of the time it doesn't, and you should walk away from the relationship immediately. Abuse is a given when you wonder whether or not to break up.

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