The Bible tells us that it is important to be honest. The truth is one of the greatest foundations of the Bible, yet being honest is one of the hardest things to do. Honesty is pretty easy to find when it comes to dangerous or "big" situations, but many Christian teens struggle most with honesty in their everyday life. Is it okay to tell a girlfriend she looks good in purple when it really washes her out? Should you lie to your friend to make yourself look better? Should you tell your best friend that you like his girlfriend when you really can't stand her? Yes, honesty can be a difficult thing to find sometimes.
Questions to Ask Yourself
Sometimes the truth seems really harsh, but you need to ask yourself what the consequences of your lies may be. Think about what God would do for you if you asked the same question as your friends or if you were in their situations. God would be truthful. Also, ask yourself if you would rather have the moment of peace with your friend or if you want their respect in the long-term.
How to Approach the Truth
Most people can appreciate honesty, as long as it is given with caring and respect. While sometimes it is necessary to be blunt, starting off that way can be very harsh and create a more difficult situation. Learning to be tactful can go a long way. Preface your honesty with statements like, "I don't want to hurt your feelings, but..." or "I have something to say, so please hear me out..." Those statements tell your friend that you are about to say something not so pleasant, but it also tells them that you are coming from a caring place, not a mean one.
Coping with the Consequences
Fear of how someone else will react to the truth is the reason so many Christian teens often tell those "little white lies." There is always a fear that the person who receives the truth will yell or stop being your friend. However, who are you more concerned with pleasing - God or your friend? Also, realize that some friends may get mad at first, but often a good friend will get over their initial anger and defensiveness to realize you only had his or her best interests at heart. And if that person doesn't get over it, then maybe it is time to evaluate how good a friend that person really was.
